Well, I dind't say it to make you panic, certainly! I only mentioned it because it is a possibilty, and one you should be aware of. Also, a possibility laced with incentives for you to talk to them and work it out!

Yes, I'd noticed that he's more evasive than jello is from a fork, I guess all I can say to that is don't give up.

I've definitely had conversations where the second part doesn't want to push the issue that really needs to be pushed. He'll talk, eventually.