Yes, well, it's kind of hard to think when one is momentarily blindsided by visions of their life falling apart again.

I've tried! Over and over! He'll sometimes kind of talk online, but in person? All he does is insist nothing is wrong. And if he won't talk to me, what the hell am I supposed to do? For that matter, how can he say I don't trust him? He clearly doesn't trust me or he'd tell me when something was wrong and what he wants! I hate that I'm guessing here! It drives me nuts that he can talk to you and not to me!